Avoid Single Mom Burnout Tip #13… Be Generous With Forgiveness


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One of the tips in my Ebook “15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,’ that can have a significant and transforming impact on your life is forgiveness . Be generous with forgiveness to others and yourself. Living a life without forgiveness keeps you stuck in the hurting place, but doesn’t move you forward to the healing place. Forgiveness isn’t always easy, in fact it may be one of the most difficult things you’ll ever have to do, but it will allow you to walk through the next door in life and shut the one behind you. The key word is behind…when you hold onto hurt, anger and wrongdoing you are staying behind in a place that no longer fits who you are in the present! Sometimes the hurt and trauma is so deep that you can’t forgive on your own, that the only way it can happen is through God . Remember this, God forgave us so who are we not to forgive others? Maybe you’re exhausted because you can’t forgive yourself. Sweet sister, please, please, please know that there is nothing you did or will ever do that the love and grace of Jesus will not cover! Forgive yourself because God has already done so! Free yourself and others with generous forgiveness and live your best life.

Avoid Single Mom Burnout Tip #5…Give Yourself a Timeout!

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Timeouts are not just for toddlers! Listen, kids stretch your patience like a gumby doll. Sometimes it’s just all too much right? The whining, the crying the back talk (if you have teens you get me), the constant running around, homework, housework, work-work, and everything else in between can seriously make you lose it. It’s okay you are only human and sometimes you just need to scream in a pillow, or just be alone for a minute. Or maybe you’ve already had enough and blew up, and everyone is looking at you like you lost your mind. It is time to put yourself in a time out! Why do we put toddlers in a timeout? Because it helps them to calm down. They may fight it at first, but usually after a few minutes, they stop crying, are breathing normally and have turned back into the sweet cherub you know and love. They may even say sorry in that adorable voice that makes your heart melt. Why? They had a moment to just sit and deal with their emotions. We need that moment every once in a while to regain some peace and restore our sanity!

In my e-Book, “15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,” I give practical tips on finding ways to give yourself a timeout regardless of the age of your children. One of my favorite time outs, is simply sitting in the car in complete silence. That time is delicious! Finding a moment to breathe will prevent blow-ups and will save you from regrets that come when mom is burned out!

 

When You Are Consumed… Know That God’s Compassion is Present

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January has been a rough month, taxing emotionally, financially, mentally and spiritually. December 31st filled me with promise for an amazing start to 2019 and if I’m being honest, it’s been anything but amazing. Financially, I had some setbacks, that really put me in a bad position and you know how frustrating that can be, right? Then, I found out an old friend of mine had passed away, in the most unexpected and awful way. It rocked me to my core and to be honest I think I’m still in shock. We were such good friends growing up and although we grew apart, I never stopped wondering about her and trying to keep up with her life, because well, that’s what you do when you love someone, it doesn’t fade away. It’s a complicated relationship, but I’ll just say, my heart was and still is broken. The sadness didn’t stop when another friend lost a dear loved one unexpectedly as well. On top of the fact that work was ridiculously stressful and I had to travel, I’ve been feeling really depleted.

I can feel the walls closing in and as they are closing my mind is going to that stinking thinking place filled with insecurity and doubt. Do you ever go down that road? It’s isn’t a fun trip. There are days where I feel absolutely useless. I take two steps forward and twenty steps back, and I want to scream, “God, what is going on?” I cry, uncle! I mean I’m trying here! I’m sure that’s the problem, I’m trying and not surrendering. How hard it is to just let go and let God? Although I know His way is the best way, and that he already knows the obstacles I will face and has it worked out, it’s still not always easy for me to surrender. That’s that pesky human ego side that fights the spirit tooth and nail.

I’ve been digesting the verse in Lamentations because it is a much-needed reminder of the Lord’s never-ending compassion and mercies that are new every morning. January has been a beast, but I can look back and see God’s compassion coming through. Whether it is Him calming my heart and mind, or a friend bailing me out of a tough unexpected financial situation, or help with my child after school, or a meal on the house from a kind person when I was traveling for work, God was present and his hand was in every situation. I didn’t have to do a thing but allow Him to work. He will never allow us to be consumed because His love is so great, so awesome and consuming! God’s love covers us and carries us. I pray that if you are feeling brokenhearted and weak that you read Lamentations and think about God’s mercies in your life…they are present, I promise you. Allow yourself to be consumed by his compassion and not your burdens.

 

Dig Deep Into the Character of God

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A little while back I dived into Psalms and started to look at the character of God. Do you ever ask yourself who is God? I wanted to share this deep dive with you. I was overwhelmed by what scriptures tell us about God, His character and who He is to us. I hope you are as blessed as I was when I saw the depth of God’s love and provision for us!

Avoid Single Mom Burnout Tip # 9 …Break the Chains of Stinking Thinking!

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Romans 8:5-6 

“For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.”

What is your mind set on? Is it set on your problems, on the dismal state of the world, regrets, or the limitations you see to be holding you back in life? Our thoughts are super powerful. Our actions and emotions are in direct alignment with our thoughts. If we allow our circumstances to dictate our thoughts we are in for a rollercoaster of a ride. Why? Because our circumstances are always in flux. How many times have you been riding high, and then boom something blindsides you and you’re lying flat on your back. How do you keep your mind healthy in those hard times? What are you meditating on? The problem or the blessing? Paul tells us in Philippians that we need to meditate on those things above. That’s key to breaking the chains of stinking thinking! Is your mind set on the fleshly things, your circumstances, or is it set on your faith and hope in God’s grace and provision?

Your mind is prime real estate  for the enemy. Never forget that God has a plan for your life, but so does the enemy and it starts with an attack on your mind. When the stinking thinking seeds are planted in your mind, they breed and multiply quickly manifesting toxicity in your actions and your interactions! See, the dangerous thing about stinking thinking is it is invasive and contagious. It infects everyone you’re around! As a mom, no one is expecting you to be skipping to the lou every day, but your words and actions matter to your kids. Negativity spreads like wild fire and if you’re not careful your kids will adopt the stinking thinking pattern in their own lives.

Stinking thinking is exhausting! Negative thoughts drain your brain and your energy. Stinking thinking is how the enemy distracts you from living fully in your role as a child of Christ! Stinking thinking is in direct opposition to the spirit of God. When our mind is filled with the spirit we feel renewed, refreshed and willing to God’s will for our life. We don’t see impossibilities or limitations because we are living in a state of spiritual abundance, and not the lack that stinking thinking falsely makes you believe you’re living in!

In my upcoming e-book, “15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,” I give you a strategic plan based straight from the scriptures that will help you to evict stinking thinking from your mind! In the meantime, here are some scriptures to meditate on to get you on the road of breaking the chains of stinking thinking:

Philippians 4:8

Finally brothers whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy think about those things.”

Romans 12:2 

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

1 Corinthians 3:18 

“Let no one deceive himself. If anyone among you thinks that he is wise in this age, let him become a fool that he may become wise.”

Psalm 119:15 

“I will meditate on your precepts and fix my eyes on your ways.”

2 Corinthians 10:5 

 “We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.”