Are you excited for 2017? Have you already started jotting down your New Year’s resolutions with gusto? Or have you given up on resolutions that stick for the first couple weeks than fall quietly to the wayside? My resolution is not to make resolutions! Instead I want to focus on making better choices. Awhile back I attended a Ladies Bible Class and we were reading Donna Partow’s book, “Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be.” Day 8 was, ‘Being Consciously Selective,’ which really resonated with me, especially the verse below.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life
she selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands
I got to thinking, what do I want to reap in my life? What do I want to sow? And how can I bring good and not harm into the lives I touch? How do my choices reflect how I view myself? These are the questions I’m reflecting on.
I believe becoming the woman God intended me to be starts with the choices I make daily, regardless of how big or small. I realize that my position in life right now is an accumulation of my choices. .. some good and some bad. I haven’t always used discernment or smart judgement and because of that I’ve hit some serious potholes along the road more like craters! I’ve experienced more consequences for poor choices than I care to admit. Looking back I realize those poor choices are often a reflection of how I was feeling about myself. Your choices are a clear reflection of how you value yourself.
Choices can lead to a harvest or a famine if we don’t use wisdom. I’ve experienced both and I can pinpoint the specific choices I made when I decided to forego wisdom and discernment that led me to a wasteland. The thing about a bad choice is they aren’t always easy to bounce back from and can lead you down a rabbit hole of more destructive choices.
I want my choices to reflect my values, self-care, my love for God, and my faith. Are you following me here? Maybe you’re in the same boat. If so then you’ll agree with me that it is utter insanity being aware that you’re making a foolish choice, but you choose to do so anyway. I’m over it to be honest! So in 2017 what I want most to do is some serious self-examination and reflection on how I currently make choices and how I want to proceed.
Here are my personal guidelines that I intend to follow:
1) Does this choice reap or have the potential to reap a harvest or be fruitful?
2) Does this choice fall in line with God’s word?
3) What are the consequences of this choice?
4) Is what I’m choosing to do a wise investment of my time?
5) Can I be lead into sin by this choice?
6) Does this choice honor who I am? Does it disrespect me or cut down my self-worth?
7) Will this choice lead me closer to God’s will for my life?
8) Does my choice hurt or impact another person(s) in a negative way?
9) Am I being honest?
10) Does this choice bring me closer to accomplishing my goal or take me further away from them?
Our choices can either lead us into a peaceful life with integrity and fulfillment or drain, frustrate and exhaust us. When we choose well we honor who God and we stop shortchanging ourselves. We are precious, capable and virtuous women who have the God-given potential to create the beautiful life we desire, we just have to intentionally and carefully select it!