Avoid Single Mom Burnout, Tip # 12… Create Your Own Narrative

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There are a lot of unfair stereotypes, judgments and expectations on single moms, that are simply untrue. It is easy to get caught up into what others think about you. I want you to use discretion about who you allow to speak into your life. You are not a statistic and you are not in a box. I know many single moms who do not resemble this downtrodden struggling caricature of a false narrative. Is life hard at times? Heck yeah! And it’s hard for moms who are married, for single dads, and everyone else on earth! Single parents do face certain issues that are unique to their circumstances, but that doesn’t justify the labels that are thrust upon single moms.

Listen, you are a unique child of God! You are not a statistic and you’re identity is not in your marital status it is in Christ. You are fully equipped to create and live the life you love. Other people don’t have the right or the power to create your narrative, unless you allow them. When you allow other’s expectations, judgments and stereotypes to seep into your mind, you create feelings of inadequacy in yourself. You can start to believe and act in a way that fulfills those stereotype and you my friend are too smart for that! Your book has many chapters to fill, write them with God and the vision you have for your life in mind!

In my upcoming eBook, “15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,” I will hit upon 4 points that will help you to create your narrative on your terms!

Avoid Single Mom Burnout Tip # 9 …Break the Chains of Stinking Thinking!

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Romans 8:5-6 

“For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.”

What is your mind set on? Is it set on your problems, on the dismal state of the world, regrets, or the limitations you see to be holding you back in life? Our thoughts are super powerful. Our actions and emotions are in direct alignment with our thoughts. If we allow our circumstances to dictate our thoughts we are in for a rollercoaster of a ride. Why? Because our circumstances are always in flux. How many times have you been riding high, and then boom something blindsides you and you’re lying flat on your back. How do you keep your mind healthy in those hard times? What are you meditating on? The problem or the blessing? Paul tells us in Philippians that we need to meditate on those things above. That’s key to breaking the chains of stinking thinking! Is your mind set on the fleshly things, your circumstances, or is it set on your faith and hope in God’s grace and provision?

Your mind is prime real estate  for the enemy. Never forget that God has a plan for your life, but so does the enemy and it starts with an attack on your mind. When the stinking thinking seeds are planted in your mind, they breed and multiply quickly manifesting toxicity in your actions and your interactions! See, the dangerous thing about stinking thinking is it is invasive and contagious. It infects everyone you’re around! As a mom, no one is expecting you to be skipping to the lou every day, but your words and actions matter to your kids. Negativity spreads like wild fire and if you’re not careful your kids will adopt the stinking thinking pattern in their own lives.

Stinking thinking is exhausting! Negative thoughts drain your brain and your energy. Stinking thinking is how the enemy distracts you from living fully in your role as a child of Christ! Stinking thinking is in direct opposition to the spirit of God. When our mind is filled with the spirit we feel renewed, refreshed and willing to God’s will for our life. We don’t see impossibilities or limitations because we are living in a state of spiritual abundance, and not the lack that stinking thinking falsely makes you believe you’re living in!

In my upcoming e-book, “15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,” I give you a strategic plan based straight from the scriptures that will help you to evict stinking thinking from your mind! In the meantime, here are some scriptures to meditate on to get you on the road of breaking the chains of stinking thinking:

Philippians 4:8

Finally brothers whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy think about those things.”

Romans 12:2 

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

1 Corinthians 3:18 

“Let no one deceive himself. If anyone among you thinks that he is wise in this age, let him become a fool that he may become wise.”

Psalm 119:15 

“I will meditate on your precepts and fix my eyes on your ways.”

2 Corinthians 10:5 

 “We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.”

 

Avoid Single Mom Burnout Tip # 1…Schedule A Date With Jesus

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There is one date that you absolutely should not miss…a daily date with Jesus! A good old talk with Jesus will refresh your spirit, strengthen your resolve and give you the hope you need when the walls are crumbling down. A  real relationship with Jesus is a gift. No one knows your burnout, anxiety, fears, dreams and your heart like Jesus! If there is one tip that I hope you remember it is this one, the number one tip, which is to make an intentional choice to choose God first. Isn’t it a blessing that we have access to our Father 24/7? God is present. But are you? God doesn’t care about formalities, he wants to hear from you always. Whether you’re washing the dishes, making dinner, raking leaves, talk to God! He’s listening! The world is noisy and it tries its best to drown out the voice of God, but make God louder by making your relationship with Him your number one priority! When you are walking with the Lord there is nothing to fear! He will light the path when all you see is darkness, He will pull you out of the pit and bring you into that spacious place, as only He can. Get to know Jesus. Know who He is. Know who He is to you. Dive into the scriptures and let them feed your soul. It will change your life.

In my upcoming eBook, “15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,” I give you practical ideas on making a date with Jesus on a daily basis. I know that nothing else will restore you body, mind and spirit like a relationship with the Lord!

Avoid Single Mom Burnout Tip #3 …Say No!

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Single Mom Burnout is serious! If you’re a single mom you know that burnout can take you out! It’s important that we reserve our energy for our sanity and the welfare of everyone around us. A burned out mom can be a scary sight! We take home the bacon, fry it up in the pan, and sometimes we forget we are a woman… not a robot programmed or capable to do a million things at once. We experience burnout when we say yes to everything. Listen, I like to please, but when I say yes, without evaluating if I have the time, money, or energy it never ends well. Well, it may go great for the people I said yes to, but I feel depleted and a little resentful if I’m being honest. This attitude defeats the whole purpose of saying yes!

Scripture tells us to let our yes mean yes and our no mean no. No is not a bad word. Saying no doesn’t indicate that you’re mean, standoffish, or selfish! Saying no means that you know when to cry uncle! You know when enough is enough and too much is too much. Saying no means you care about your wellbeing and acknowledge your limits. Saying no means you take your commitments seriously and don’t just commit without thinking it through. You give yourself peace and honor those around you when you are honest about your yes and your no’s. So, my friend stand firm and kind in your no it really is okay.

I’m excited to be launching an e-Book with my 15 Tips on Avoiding Single Mom Burnout! I’ll be giving you practical tips, prayers, and scriptures to help you avoid burning out so that you can shine your brightest as a woman of God!

Free PDF! Excerpt From the Upcoming Book, “Don’t Be a Yes Girl!”

I’m working hard on my e-book I hope to release by the end of this year. I’m excited to share with you an excerpt and peek into one of the chapters, “Don’t Be A Yes Girl!” I hope you enjoy it! Click on the link below for access to the PDF.

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