Show Acts of Kindness Not Judgement

Judgement hurts. Judgement spill out so easily, doesn’t it? We look at people and their actions and in a few moments we make a snap judgement about who they are, and what their actions say about them. Maybe it’s easy because it has become a norm in our society. There’s a whole lot of judgement going on these days and you can’t tell me it doesn’t hurt, and if you’ve been on the receiving end then you know that is the truth.

Single moms are often unfairly under the eye of judgement. How often has the mom whose kid is having a full blown tantrum received darting stares of annoyance? Or the person who comes late to church service every Sunday are given the disappointing stare? The woman who passes on adding to the collection plate is whispered about behind their back? We are so quick to give a disapproving glance, or cast a stereotype without looking beyond the surface. Are we so trained to take things at face value that we don’t really see the complexities of what is happening behind the face we are judging.

If we only stopped to ask, maybe we would learn that the child’s tantrum is because they are sick, and have been poked and prodded for months on end, and their mom is too exhausted from her own anxiety to do much about it.
Maybe the woman who is always late is fighting depression and just getting out of bed and getting dressed is a battle, so showing up to church is a win for them. The person who passed on the collection plate, may be struggling just to put food on their family’s table and is hoping not to get evicted, so there is no money to give.

The point is there is usually something deeper that lies beyond what we see. If you’ve ever been unfairly judged you know it cuts you to the core, it’s humilating and it makes you feel less than. Jesus wants us to be the light, to shine in that place where others see darkness. We are beautifully flawed and complex beings, so, before we judge let’s stop and look deeper. Instead of passing judgement let’s pass on acts of kindness and love so that judgement has no place to reside.

Get Some Rest! Stop Counting On Man & Start Trusting In God

Who do you rely on? Most of us rely on someone, right? Often times we rely the most on ourselves. or we trust in those around us. When we fail or others don’t meet our expectations, we get nervous. Anxiety starts to set in and we forget about who is in control…God.

Placing our faith in everyone and everything else causes us to be tired…spiritually tired. The type of tired that causes unrest in our spirit. The kind of unrest that makes us feel sad, helpless and desperate. We have limitations. God is limitless . We see burdens, God sees the blessing. We feel alone and God sees our troubles as a way draw us closer to him. How often do we call on everyone else but God? We seek advice from our friends, family, and therapists, but how often do we stop and call on the Lord?

I can’t tell you how many times I have felt stuck, with no way out. I cried until I couldn’t see, I sat for hours trying to figure out a solution, I tried to think logically, I had sleepless night and anxiety ridden days. Guess what? None of it solved the problem or got me through the trial. It was only when I surrendered it to God did I find rest. My issue wasn’t magically resolved overnight (sometimes it was!) but I found rest for my spirit. I could walk through the day knowing that God would take care of me.

As a single parent, I know there are struggles that are unique to you and your children. I also know that you have the best partner, one that won’t let you down, that will support you, and give you the wisdom and strength you need to move forward. It’s easy to become tainted to look outward, to feel like you are a lone ranger on your own, but I beg you to look inward to that place where God resides in you and hold onto him, because he is always holding onto you.

Our problems and circumstances seem impossible or insurmountable because we view them with human eyes! In our humanness we can’t see a solution, or a way through, but God already has the plan in place! The best thing is unlike human plans, there are no flaws in God’s plans! It may not be the one you had in mind, but you can trust that he has your best interest in mind.


Are you tired? Find rest through trusting in God and not man. Trust in the power of the one who knows you better than anyone, who knit you into your beautiful complex self and whose love For you is eternal and endless! When you put your faith in him then you will find true rest.

Experiencing Writers Block in Your Life? Hand the Pen Over To God!

Are you experiencing writer’s block in your life? Are you desperately trying to write this incredible story for you own life, that is filled with purpose and passion, a life you know in your heart your were destined to live and hitting a wall? You try so hard to fill the blank pages and you keep coming up short, or you write this story that doesn’t feel right, so what do you do?

It’s time to hand the pen over to the real author of your life…God. We fight so hard to be in control of everything, don’t we? After all we know ourselves best, so we should be able to write a story for our life that matches our vision. This is our first misstep. We do not know ourselves best. The Lord, our creator, the one who knitted us in our mother’s womb and knew our lives before we ever came into being, knows us more intimately than we can imagine. Why wouldn’t we trust God to write our story?

I’ve been in a season of uncertainty and frustration. Life is going by and I have all these dreams on my heart that I’m trying to bring to fruition and I’m stuck. The paper is laid out, I’m picking up the pen and nothing is happening. The enemy is whispering every day…give up, just settle, you’re not special, you will never be more than what you are right now. It is so easy to listen to that lie, to stop believing and trusting that God has an amazing story for my life. When we surrender and submit to God instead of hearing the enemy’s whispers we hear God loud and clear. He will guide our steps, he will remove the writer’s block and start writing your story with you.

If you feel as though you have nothing to give, that you don’t want to write this life story anymore, please do not give up! That is a lie from Satan. As long as you have breath in your body, and faith in God your story is still being written. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Let the powerfulness of this scripture marinate in your heart, spirit, and mind. You are taken care of…God has the plan and it is a good one. A plan that is full of hope and prosperity, that will have you glorify him and be a testimony to all that he is capable of doing in your life and those who believe in him. Your future is secure.

Hand the pen over and allow God to write a bestseller of your life!

My Word For 2019…Finish

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Philippians 1:6

“And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” 

Happy New Year! I can’t  believe another year has come and gone. As I grow older the years go quicker! There were the usual joys, sorrows, gains, losses and ups and downs in 2018 and life lessons as well. Waking up today, the first day of 2019 with my daughter and dog snuggled up beside me, I felt an overwhelming gratitude for God’s great gift of life. Whether I’m going experiencing the highs or the lows, I’m grateful. I also reflected on how I’m using my life to glorify God. If I’m being honest, I experienced a lot of disappointment in 2018. I wasn’t disappointed by God, but by me. I have this aching feeling that I’m not living on purpose, that I’m holding myself back, and not jumping fully into God’s plan for my life. My unfinished list would make your head spin, so I’ll spare you!

This morning after reading scripture, I sat with God, just me and Him and asked Him to speak to my heart. I desperately needed the Lord to reveal a word, to me that would give me insight into how I needed to change my heart, transform my mind, and motivate me to not just make a fly by night resolution, but a life altering change. It’s amazing what God will reveal when you’re still and present.

The word God revealed to me was…Finish. I had to laugh because boy does my creator know His creation! Here’s the thing, I’m a pretty good starter, I think I have some good ideas, and when it comes to my daughter I finish things, but somewhere in the middle of a pursuit, I get stuck. I don’t finish. It drives me nuts, it makes me sad and disappointed and it keeps me in a rut. Not finishing actually makes me not like myself very much. Why? Because I know that I’m not in alignment with God’s will. It’s as though I’m running a steady race and then BOOM! I hit a wall. Instead of finding a way around it, I just kind of sit there, staring up and too paralyzed to move.

It reminds me of Galatians 5:7, “You were running a good race. Who cut in on you to keep you from obeying the truth?” Instead of believing the truth, that I can accomplish all things through Christ, and lean on Him, I get wrapped up into my own insecurities and it robs me from completing the race! Not only did God give me a word this morning, He went deeper with a prescription! In my heart He revealed to exactly how to finish.

F- Faith: My faith has to lie in God and not myself. I have a little problem called stubborn self-reliance, that keeps me back from the grace of faith.

I- Intentional: I have to be deliberate about finishing and not just starting. Discipline, preparation and action have a played a big role for my lack of finishing.

N- Now: The time is not in the next couple days, or month, or later, it is now. Too often I plan for the future without taking the steps in the now. Two years later I’m talking about what I plan to do instead of just doing it!

I-Inspiration: Surrounding and immersing myself in what inspires me is key. I need to refine my vision and be inspired by it every day. Keeping inspiration in front of my eyes, in my heart will help me to manifest it in my life. Also, finding inspiration through reading God’s word and being inspired by His  truths and not the lies the enemy wants me to believe about myself and my gifts.

S-Self Control: God made it clear that discipline, wise choices, and the willingness to stop doing what I know produces the same results will keep me from hitting that wall and give me the endurance to finish. My procrastination is a direct result of my lack of self-control.

H-Hope: God revealed to me that I need to renew my hope. Even in the failures, I have to remember my testimony, my cloud of witnesses and the truth that is hope that lies in Jesus Christ my Savior.

Will finishing be easy? No, after all habits, are hard to break, but I do know that God didn’t reveal this to me for me to fail. He has already equipped me for victory, for purpose and to finish what I start. I pray that you have a wonderful 2019 overflowing with blessings, gratitude and a renewed sense of purpose!

Shed Your Old Wineskins!

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Holding on to habits and patterns that no longer serve us keep us bounded to the ordinary. The enemy wants our feet to be cemented in a holding place so that we can’t move forward and do God’s work. Breaking bad habits is difficult because to some degree it’s comfortable to do what you always did even when the results are less than favorable. So much of the discouragement and that unsettled feeling of not living our authentic life originates from the patterns we adopt. We’re unsettled because we’re not pursuing God’s plan for our life. Going against God’s grain leaves us frustrated and feeling like we’re missing something. Internally and spiritually you know there’s something else you should be doing, but you’re habits stop you. This is one of the ways the enemy distracts you from God’s plan. He wants you believe that you can’t change. That you are who you are, and there is nothing you can do about it! These habits are in your DNA. How many times have you heard people say or maybe even yourself, “I can’t help it, that’s just who I am.” That my friend is an excuse that you’ve been conditioned to believe but that good news is you can change your CONDITION!

Be intentional about choosing something different. Adopt habits that honor who you are in God, choose the patterns that take you to the next level God has for your life! When you choose to break the strongholds in your life that are holding you back from God’s best, you will be unstoppable! Unstoppable not in your power, but in God’s power and strength, so that ultimately you can glorify the Lord!

Maybe some of your habits originate from a belief pattern  you had before you knew Christ. You are a new creature in God! Step fully into your identity! No longer do you have to hold onto an old way of life  that doesn’t reflect who you are as a daughter of the King! You can’t expect to do new things when you’re grabbing onto old ways. Scripture tells us you can’t pour wine into old wineskins because it will break and the wine will spill out. What are you trying to pour into your life that doesn’t seem to stick? Are you frustrated because you have a vision, something new that you want to pursue, that’s put on your heart by God, but it keeps falling through? It’s time to change your wineskin!

Think about the habits you need to release. You know what they are, because they haunt you. Every day, every moment, and every year that you are not walking fully in your purpose is because of a choice that you can change.  What have you gained by holding onto unhealthy and unwise habits? The answer is nothing! If anything you lose something every day, the community around you loses something, your family looses something because they are not getting the woman God designed you to be!

Bad habits are like friends who don’t have your best interest at heart. It’s difficult because you’ve grown accustomed to the toxic relationship by making excuses, by refusing to see the hard and ugly truth because you want so badly to hold on, to believe that it’s not that bad. But, it is and it dishonors who you are and soon you become okay with that and you accept the unacceptable. Knowing when to quit is freeing and allows you to stand in your truth and in God’s truth for you.  Stop cheating yourself and others out of God’s extraordinary vision for your life and start living your best life by releasing what doesn’t serve you any longer!

 

The Lord Settled the Matter, But Have You?

Isaiah 1 18

Have you settled the matter of your sin? When we say yes to Jesus Christ as our Savior we have settled the matter. Christ paid for our sin debt in full, dying on the cross for every one of our sins, but the question is do we believe that the matter is settled? Or do we continue to live in bondage, shackled to guilt, and shame never fully resting in the blessed assurance of our redemption through Christ? The enemy stalks us with our sin. When we choose to continuously live in the shadows of our sin it distracts us from God’s work. Sin’s hold on you isn’t by mistake, it is a deliberate part of Satan’s plan to keep you distracted, and doubting your faith, and identity in Christ.

Our mind and spirit are in a battle with the enemy and every day we have to ask ourselves,”Who am I in Christ?” “Am I a new creature?” “Do I believe I am forgiven?” It’s one thing to say I am a child of Christ, it is another thing to live as a child of Christ. Jesus loved us enough and deemed us worthy to save us from death, but we must be willing to accept his grace and his forgiveness. Why is it that so many of us spend years living in shame, beating ourselves up and stuck in the past because we refuse to forgive ourselves for our sins?

Yes, we should repent, confess, turn away from sin, and be remorseful, but repeatedly punishing ourselves is useless. When we refuse to forgive ourselves we are saying that Christ’s forgiveness isn’t enough, that his death on the cross doesn’t cut it. There is absolutely nothing in this world you can ever do that Christ’s grace and forgiveness can’t cover.

You can’t live as a new creation if you’re living with an old mindset. You are divinely designed! God’s plans for you are bigger than your sin. Yes, your sin was like scarlet, red as crimson, but the Lord settled the matter, so let it be settled in your heart, mind, and spirit.

You’re a Boss…But at What Cost?

I spend a fair amount of time in my car shuttling my daughter around, running errands, and rushing off to meetings. Traffic is enough to make me want to jump from a moving car (which would be ugly), so I entertain myself by singing aloud (much to my kid’s chagrin), listening to podcasts and thinking about my to-do list for the day. However, sometimes the greatest form of entertainment comes from the cars around me, especially the license plates! Do you see what people put on their plates? It’s fascinating and gives me a much-needed chuckle when I’m at a stalemate for 20 minutes! I came across one plate that made me pause, it said, ‘IMABOSS.’ It caught my attention because I thought about how being in power and control has a tight and detrimental grip on society. Everyone strives to be a boss! Authority, submission, and dependency are associated with weakness and is frowned upon heavily.
 
As a single parent, it’s normal for me to assume the title of boss. After all, I’m holding it down! I solely manage a household, cook, clean, pay the bills, mow the lawn, work, and do everything in between. Circumstances dictate that I’m in charge, so why is being a boss a bad thing? The issue creeps in when my independence clouds my need for dependence on the Lord. I get so caught up in trying to do all and be all that I forget that I could do nothing without God! When I’m in boss mode I also forget that everything I do should be to the glory of God and not the ego which cries out, “look at me I can do it all on my own, I don’t need anyone, did I prove myself yet?” Being a boss for me stems from pride, fear of failure, and ego. I’m not the boss, God is and I learn this lesson often.

 
Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” When you’re the boss it is natural to lean on your own understanding, to trust in yourself to make decisions and plan out the course of your life. You are the authority in your life. For some of us who’ve been the boss for so long, submission and dependency conjure up feelings of helplessness and fear. There’s nothing worse for a boss than to feel a loss of control. The problem with being a boss is that there’s a cost.
Leaning on God is a gift that removes the unnecessary mountain of burdens we place on our shoulders when we want to be the authority. Bosses tend to believe that there way is the best way. They follow their own beat and stay on the path they believe is the right one, missing out on God’s perfect plan for their life. God’s authority is our protection, a shield that often stops us from ourselves! But if we are looking through our boss vision we can’t see God’s bigger vision for our life. When IMABOSS I spend countless sleepless evenings in a state of anxiety. I get caught up in a situation and because I’m super independent, I drive myself to the brink of insanity thinking about a solution, worrying about the next step, holding so tight to the situation that it consumes me. When I submit to God he takes it from me. He releases me, maybe not from the situation, but he unbinds me from the outcome. We can trust that God has it resolved and his grace is sufficient.
 
Being a boss is overrated. Being a child of God is the best position you will ever attain. There is a cost to being the boss, and it is a loss. A loss of God’s blessed assurance that he is in total control of your life and has the details all figured out. Do yourself a favor relinquish the boss title and relish in your title as a daughter of Christ.

When Looking Back Turns Us Into A Pillar of Salt

The quickest way to become an ineffective Christian is to keep looking back and living in the past. Remember Lot’s wife? She was told to not look back, to flee, but the temptation to look back on a city that could no longer serve her turned her into a pillar of salt. She was left unable to move or go forward. Don’t allow yourself to meet the same fate as Lot’s wife! Be the salt of the earth by trusting God and resisting the urge to live a life that you’ve shed. Don’t allow your resistance to change to affect who God created you to become! Check out the newest post at my author site.

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Defeat the Darts of Discouragement and Fear Through the Shield of Christ

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There are two powerful darts that aim to shoot us down, snatch away dreams and inject poison into our hopes and tries to deflate our faith. Those darts are fear and discouragement. Have you ever got shot in the gut by one of these darts? Most of us experience the unpleasant effects of fear or discouragement when we are burning up to do God’s work. When we are on purpose and intentionally trying to live out God’s will for our life, that when the darts come flying out of nowhere.

You know what I’m talking about, don’t you? Some of you are probably licking your wounds as you read these words. Maybe it was just a  few weeks ago that you had boundless energy to do God’s work. The path in front of you felt familiar because God had planted the seeds in your heart, to carry out his will and you felt fulfilled because that’s exactly what you were doing, then all of a sudden bam! You’re hit with a wave of fear, intimidation, pessimism and a stream of negative thoughts that scream how unworthy and ill-equipped you are to be on this path.  After the fear gets cozy it ushers in discouragement.  All the confidence and enthusiasm you were bursting with is slowly drained by the poisonous dart that has intentionally found its way to you.

Fear and discouragement are the heavy artillery used by the enemy to derail you and extinguish the fire you have as a follower of Christ. If you’ve been under attack you know how debilitating and paralyzing it is to your spirit. So, how do you loosen the grip of the enemy’s hold in your life?

Just as God commanded Joshua to be strong and courageous he commands us to do the same. How can we do this when we can barely see above the fear that’s clouding our vision and the discouragement that invading our heart? We can only do it through the assurance that God is with us always. If God who is all-powerful, omniscient, never-changing, who is limitless in possibility is always with us then fear and discouragement are already defeated. The Lord is our shield protecting us from the darts of the enemy. Through our faith and assurance, our courage and strength are born. We can be encouraged by the knowledge of the scriptures that assure us that God has our back.

When I’m in my groove and on my path of purpose a  huge mistake I make that gives the enemy a clear shot is when I become self-reliant. The courage and strength I experience in the beginning are born from Christ, but then that old prideful self-appears and foolishly  I start to rely on my own abilities, skills, and strength,  placing my protective shield in a corner. The enemy is crafty! When he sees I’ve taken off my armor he will take full advantage of my unprotected state, target my weaknesses and vulnerabilities with a full-on attack. Suddenly I’ve veered off course. I’m deflated,  doubtful and feel like a balloon that’s been popped. All that zeal for God is replaced with a hesitancy to go forward. Ladies this isn’t what God wants for us!

The key to strength and courage is allowing it to pour in through Christ. Let him fill you with his blessed assurance, let him wipe away the tears of discouragement and resuscitate you with a heart of encouragement! You have nothing to fear as long as you continue to be rooted in Christ. We don’t have to be strong on our own, we can’t! We need the Lord of infinite power to permeate our life to be a force field against the darts of the enemy so that we can become the masterpiece the potter had always planned!