What Are You Thinking About?

Stinking thinking is a beast! When one negative thought snowballs into another, and another, it is easy to fall into a downward spiral. Last week, it was though I was living in a show called the battle for my mind! The negative thoughts and self talk were so loud that all I could see was where I was failing. I was falling into the enemy’s trap! Don’t you know that the first place Satan tries to infiltrate is our mind? If he can snag space there, he can start to control our actions.

One of the tips in my upcoming, eBook, ““15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,” is ‘Evict Stinking Thinking.’ When our mind is flooded with self sabotaging thoughts it’s impossible to be present and focus on our blessings. If all we see is the negative it renders us absolutely useless.

Paul gives us the perfect prescription in Philippians 4:8 on how we should think and what we should think about . In my book we take a look at what the enemy wants us to focus on in comparison to how Paul instructs us to think. Stinking thinking is exhausting and is a primary cause for burnout. It takes energy to treat ourselves badly! Stinking thinking are the chains that keep you from pursuing your dreams and you are too fabulous for that ladies!

Do People’s Opinions Have Power Over Your Narrative?

Don’t allow people’s opinion about your life, dreams or vision to shape your narrative! Too often we give people power they don’t deserve in our lives. You get to write the pages of your story, and create the life that matches your vision!


Burnout comes when we choose to live against your grain. I say choose, because it is a choice. If we choose to permit people’s opinions to outweigh our faith, our belief in ourselves and God’s purpose for us.

You were born to bloom! God has planted the seeds in your heart and mind, all you need to do is to nurture them into fruition! Don’t allow anyone to stop your growth! In my upcoming eBook, “15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,” I will dive into 4 strategies that will help you create your own narrative. You deserve to live out the best version of your life, don’t be afraid to grab the pen and write the greatest story ever!

Is Your Refusal to Close Old Chapters, Stopping You From Creating a New Narrative

One of Tips in my eBook, “15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,” is to Create Your Own Narrative. Nothing is more exhausting and burns you out more than when you know in your heart that you’re living a narrative that doesn’t fit the amazing person you are ladies! One of the ways we sabotage living the life we love is by rereading the last line of our old chapters over and over again. Refusing to turn the page of an old chapter robs you of being fully engaged in the present.


Ask yourself these questions, are you stuck in an old chapter that’s keeping you from moving forward? Honor your past, forgive yourself if necessary, let go of regret and turn the page!


God wants to use your past to refine your faith, and bring you closer to him! He wants you to learn the lessons and apply them to his purpose for you.


What matters is today…what are you doing this moment that contributes to creating the narrative you desire? What are you holding onto that doesn’t serve you? When we feed off regret, mistakes, and refuse to forgive ourselves or others it weighs us down and eventually that weight makes it impossible for us to take action in a positive way! Keep old chapters in their proper perspective so that you can keep your vision in clear focus

Avoid Single Mom Burnout Tip # 9 …Break the Chains of Stinking Thinking!

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Romans 8:5-6 

“For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.”

What is your mind set on? Is it set on your problems, on the dismal state of the world, regrets, or the limitations you see to be holding you back in life? Our thoughts are super powerful. Our actions and emotions are in direct alignment with our thoughts. If we allow our circumstances to dictate our thoughts we are in for a rollercoaster of a ride. Why? Because our circumstances are always in flux. How many times have you been riding high, and then boom something blindsides you and you’re lying flat on your back. How do you keep your mind healthy in those hard times? What are you meditating on? The problem or the blessing? Paul tells us in Philippians that we need to meditate on those things above. That’s key to breaking the chains of stinking thinking! Is your mind set on the fleshly things, your circumstances, or is it set on your faith and hope in God’s grace and provision?

Your mind is prime real estate  for the enemy. Never forget that God has a plan for your life, but so does the enemy and it starts with an attack on your mind. When the stinking thinking seeds are planted in your mind, they breed and multiply quickly manifesting toxicity in your actions and your interactions! See, the dangerous thing about stinking thinking is it is invasive and contagious. It infects everyone you’re around! As a mom, no one is expecting you to be skipping to the lou every day, but your words and actions matter to your kids. Negativity spreads like wild fire and if you’re not careful your kids will adopt the stinking thinking pattern in their own lives.

Stinking thinking is exhausting! Negative thoughts drain your brain and your energy. Stinking thinking is how the enemy distracts you from living fully in your role as a child of Christ! Stinking thinking is in direct opposition to the spirit of God. When our mind is filled with the spirit we feel renewed, refreshed and willing to God’s will for our life. We don’t see impossibilities or limitations because we are living in a state of spiritual abundance, and not the lack that stinking thinking falsely makes you believe you’re living in!

In my upcoming e-book, “15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,” I give you a strategic plan based straight from the scriptures that will help you to evict stinking thinking from your mind! In the meantime, here are some scriptures to meditate on to get you on the road of breaking the chains of stinking thinking:

Philippians 4:8

Finally brothers whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy think about those things.”

Romans 12:2 

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

1 Corinthians 3:18 

“Let no one deceive himself. If anyone among you thinks that he is wise in this age, let him become a fool that he may become wise.”

Psalm 119:15 

“I will meditate on your precepts and fix my eyes on your ways.”

2 Corinthians 10:5 

 “We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.”

 

You’re a Boss…But at What Cost?

I spend a fair amount of time in my car shuttling my daughter around, running errands, and rushing off to meetings. Traffic is enough to make me want to jump from a moving car (which would be ugly), so I entertain myself by singing aloud (much to my kid’s chagrin), listening to podcasts and thinking about my to-do list for the day. However, sometimes the greatest form of entertainment comes from the cars around me, especially the license plates! Do you see what people put on their plates? It’s fascinating and gives me a much-needed chuckle when I’m at a stalemate for 20 minutes! I came across one plate that made me pause, it said, ‘IMABOSS.’ It caught my attention because I thought about how being in power and control has a tight and detrimental grip on society. Everyone strives to be a boss! Authority, submission, and dependency are associated with weakness and is frowned upon heavily.
 
As a single parent, it’s normal for me to assume the title of boss. After all, I’m holding it down! I solely manage a household, cook, clean, pay the bills, mow the lawn, work, and do everything in between. Circumstances dictate that I’m in charge, so why is being a boss a bad thing? The issue creeps in when my independence clouds my need for dependence on the Lord. I get so caught up in trying to do all and be all that I forget that I could do nothing without God! When I’m in boss mode I also forget that everything I do should be to the glory of God and not the ego which cries out, “look at me I can do it all on my own, I don’t need anyone, did I prove myself yet?” Being a boss for me stems from pride, fear of failure, and ego. I’m not the boss, God is and I learn this lesson often.

 
Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” When you’re the boss it is natural to lean on your own understanding, to trust in yourself to make decisions and plan out the course of your life. You are the authority in your life. For some of us who’ve been the boss for so long, submission and dependency conjure up feelings of helplessness and fear. There’s nothing worse for a boss than to feel a loss of control. The problem with being a boss is that there’s a cost.
Leaning on God is a gift that removes the unnecessary mountain of burdens we place on our shoulders when we want to be the authority. Bosses tend to believe that there way is the best way. They follow their own beat and stay on the path they believe is the right one, missing out on God’s perfect plan for their life. God’s authority is our protection, a shield that often stops us from ourselves! But if we are looking through our boss vision we can’t see God’s bigger vision for our life. When IMABOSS I spend countless sleepless evenings in a state of anxiety. I get caught up in a situation and because I’m super independent, I drive myself to the brink of insanity thinking about a solution, worrying about the next step, holding so tight to the situation that it consumes me. When I submit to God he takes it from me. He releases me, maybe not from the situation, but he unbinds me from the outcome. We can trust that God has it resolved and his grace is sufficient.
 
Being a boss is overrated. Being a child of God is the best position you will ever attain. There is a cost to being the boss, and it is a loss. A loss of God’s blessed assurance that he is in total control of your life and has the details all figured out. Do yourself a favor relinquish the boss title and relish in your title as a daughter of Christ.

Avoid the Single Mom Burnout Tip #1 Dive Into the Sciptures!

Tip #1 Dive Into Scripture
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2 Timothy 3:16-17
“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

The Number 1 surefire tip I have for avoiding single mom burnout is to consistently spend time in the scriptures. When I  read the scriptures  I have a renewed sense of hope and reassurance of God’s promises. Being a single mom tests your faith every day, but you can stand strong in your faith when you are armed with the gospel. When you are grounded in God’s word, when you know His precepts  those impossible days become bearable. The Bible is our blueprint for life and it is at your fingertips begging for you to open it, read it, and apply it to your life. Before you pick up the phone and call a friend pick up the Bible. The word is living and breathing so every day try to live it and breathe it in so you can extinguish the burnout before it becomes a wildfire!