New friendships can still be intimidating even at 41! Yes, I still get nervous when approaching new friendships because they are simply new! Your childhood friends know you. They remember you when you wore florescent, memorized every word to the Outsiders, kissed pillows (or walls, yes I did and pretended the wall was Pony Boy Curtis from the Outsiders LOL), and did a ton of other stuff that no one else will quite ever get. Then you have your college to adulthood friends from college who saw you emerge into an adult and most likely have shared some pretty heavy stuff with you some good and some bad. These friends are like comfortable blankets you can always wrap them around you and they warm your heart. But, making new friends at this age is a little challenging!
I’ve had some heartbreaks in the friendship arena recently and I’m recovering.Through the process I’ve done alot of self examination and praying. I know that God revealed things to me for a reason and I’m making peace with his will. However, being vulnerable to new friendships are a little intimidating. With new friends you have to let down your walls, invite them in, and be ready to share if you want an authentic and genuine friendship. I think life is too short to have it any other way. What I realized recently is sometimes you just have to jump in with both feet! My daughter is going to a new school which we both so far adore. I’m really enjoying participating and meeting the moms. But I still feel that sense of caution. I don’t want to run up to someone and grab them by the arm and beg them to be a friend that isn’t my style, but I do want to develop friendships because I sincerely enjoy people. Although most of my friends would say that I’m outgoing, I really am pretty shy. I’ve had conversations with of the moms at Anya’s school in the mornings or the afternoons at pickup, but it is still very casual.
Then yesterday when the sun finally came out after days of rain I decided to take Anya to the farm for our traditional visit to this particular fall festival. As I was finishing up a few chores around the house, I kept thinking about asking this one particular mom if she and her daughter wanted to go with us. I went back and forth because I thought she probably already had plans for the day off school, so I almost didn’t ask. Then after some more thought, I decided to jump in and just send her an email and ask her if she wanted to meet. I wrote that I’m sure she already had plans (my way of saying no pressure) but if she wanted to meet us that would be great. So to my pleasant surprise she called! She said sure and had been thinking on the same lines.
We met at farm and had a wonderful time! I really enjoyed talking with her on a range of subjects and especially about faith. It was truly refreshing. The girls had a good time and everyone left happy! I learned that we have to take chances with people and not be so cautious! It is okay to put yourself out there I’m certainly glad I did! God intends for us to be relational and with every relationship no matter how short or long you can learn something from it if you decide to open your heart. So, go ahead and invite that mom from school or church over for a cup of coffee and just enjoy the moment and possibly a new friendship!