4 Ways to Connect With Fellow Single Moms

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We are not an island unto ourselves, although it may feel that way at times. One of the best things I ever did as a single mom was to connect with other single moms. Now, I’m not trying to exclude anyone, but there is something familiar and comforting when you can connect with another woman who is in the same boat as you, or at least floating down the same river. Fellow single moms understand the complexities of single parenting, co-parenting, and bearing it all on our own which we’re pretty awesome at handling, but wouldn’t it be nice to have some support, a friend to call in a pinch, someone who gets what it takes to make it all the wheels spin?

Why should you seek out other single moms? Because community is everything! When you belong to a tribe life seems a little brighter, a whole lot safer and there is absolutely nothing like amazing girlfriends. So how do you find your tribe?

Check Out These 4 Ways to Connect With Other Single Moms!

  1. Join a Single Mom Ministry: What better way to connect than a cup of coffee and a good dose of faith and friendship? Join a single parent ministry at church. If your church doesn’t have a single parent ministry, find out how you can start one. I bet you’ll be surprised how many women may be interested.
  2. Start a Meetup Group: It’s almost like online dating! Just joking. If you go to Meetup you can simply look for a group or start one in your community. Meet up in a public space like a coffee shop until you are comfortable enough to meet in more personal quarters.
  3. Start a Book Club for Single Moms: Who doesn’t love a good book? Book clubs are a fun and easy way to connect. Post a flyer at church, in your library, or ask your kid’s school if you can place an announcement in their newsletter.
  4. Create a Facebook Group: Cyberspace is a fun way to meet people. Create a private Facebook group for your city or town and plan some fun activities for moms and kids. You’ll meet new people in no time and so will your  kiddos which is an added bonus!

Being a single mom is so much easier when you have a tribe to call your own. So get out there and start your community, you won’t regret it!

Looking For A Quick Girl’s Getaway? Try Berkeley Springs, WV

If you live in the DC metro area you are only about an hour and a half away from an inexpensive, fun girl’s trip in Berkeley Springs, WV! On the day after Christmas with both of our kids hanging out with their fathers my BFF and I decided to hop on the open road and go wild! Well, actually we didn’t really go wild… but we did have a ball visiting antique shops, eating, and getting a little spa treatment! The best thing is we didn’t spend a ton of money and it was a simple day trip that took less than 2 hours! Here is a little snapshot of our fun day in Berkeley Springs!

We arrived in the afternoon and was thrilled that we didn’t have to pay for parking on the street (thanks to the city) and there was plenty of parking to boot!

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After our ride we were a bit hungry so we settled on a quaint little restaurant named, ‘Taris,‘that was darling inside! The food was so tasty and the service was top-notch. I ordered french onion soup and a salad for $11 bucks! I was some of the best French Onion I’ve ever had and my friend had a crab soup that was to die for! You can also feast your eyes on some of the local artisans work they have displayed!

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Then we took a leisurely stroll around the town visiting antique shop and a sweet bookstore,  Berkeley Springs Books, where I purchased, “The Purpose Driven Life,”($1) and a Coltrane CD ($4). I love to browse in bookstores and this was no exception.

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One of my favorite stores is the ‘Stop and Shop,’ where the treasures you find are at an incredibly reasonable price! If I had a truck I could literally clean out the store! Just look at this lovely find! It was $119 but 20% off! Adorable right?

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A girl’s trip isn’t complete without a little pampering, so we went over to Berkeley Springs State Park where I indulged in a Roman Bath, a sauna, and a shower for $35.00 and my BFF had a 30 minute massage along with a lounge in the whirlpool for $50.00. She said he massage was incredible!! If you don’t know what a Roman Bath is it is basically, you soaking in 750 gallons of mineral water in a ceramic tile, walk-in private tub that is heated to a maximum water temperature of 102 degrees Fahrenheit. The Roman Bath is a tub big enough to stretch out in, to float, read, or just relax.

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After all that relaxation we were hungry! We could’ve chosen a healthy dish, but we decided to go Italian where I had a lovely trio of manicotti, spaghetti, and stuffed shells with a salad and a meat ball at Maria’s Garden and Inn. The food was good and reasonably priced plus they were super friendly!

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Berkeley Springs is a perfect getaway for a day, an overnight trip or it would be perfect for a retreat! Visit http://berkeleysprings.com/ for a complete list of lodging, shopping, eating, and events.

Have Your Own Single Momma’s Retreat at Home!

A little girl time hits the spot!

A little girl time hits the spot!

I love the idea of having a retreat or going on a retreat, doesn’t it just sound relaxing? Now throw in some girlfriends, food, conversation and silliness and it sounds down right delicious! I believe in the power of sisterhood and connection and one way we do this is through the time we spend with one another. It isn’t easy finding free time for a couple hours not to mention a couple days, but what if you made it a scheduled event that you do once or twice a year?

Most of the single moms I know have every other weekend free, why not plan a weekend with the girls? Ladies, single parenting is hard work and we all need retreat, a time to unwind, and have a little fun! I know money can be scarce so here are my tips on how to plan a single momma’s retreat at your own house!

  1. Pick a Day: Have a meeting of the minds! Review everyone’s schedule and determine which weekend works best. Make a commitment and put it on the calendar.
  2. Plan Activities: Think about what you like to do together and plan your activities around your interests. For example, every morning wake up and go on a hike, go for a bike ride, plan a picnic, at home spa treatments, crafting, painting, games, go to the movies or ask each person to bring her favorite movie. Have each person pick one activity for the weekend.
  3. Eat: Who doesn’t love to eat! If you decide to do all the cooking, then make sure you know everyone’s preferences or dietary restrictions. I suggest sharing the cooking and going to a farmer’s market on a Saturday morning for that evening’s dinner. Maybe have each person suggest a meal that is simple, yet delicious!
  4. Preparing Your House: Stay relaxed, these are your friends! Make sure you have plenty of the necessities like toiletries, towels, linens, snacks and drinks. Clean your house a few days before, but don’t stress out!
  5. Make it Memorable: Sweet touches can make your girl’s retreat extra special. As the hostess it can be as simple as giving everyone a handwritten letter, expressing your appreciation for their friendship, or a small gift that will remind them of your time together.
  6. Get Some Prayer Time In: One of the most meaningful ways we can connect is through Christ. Make time during the weekend for prayer. Dig deep and find out where each of you need prayer in your lives and pray over one another. A perfect way to end the weekend is to attend church together and have brunch.

Keep it simple, light, fun and enjoy one another’s company! If you don’t want to have it at someone’s home, other ideas are going camping or to a cabin, renting a hotel, or going to a beach house or spa. If you split the costs these ideas can be affordable. But, sometimes the best place is at home with your feet kicked up on the porch, with a tall glass of iced tea laughing your heads off! Whatever you decide for your retreat make it memorable!

 

One Word to Sum Up My Weekend… Gratitude

I hope everyone had a great weekend. After a pretty rough week I was in need of a couple of restful days. Days that went slowly, that were filled with food, lots of laughter, friends and fellowship and by the grace of God I was granted my desire. Friday was spent lounging on the couch with my friend Christina after eating a healthy dinner and then indulging in popcorn and movies. Saturday, was double the fun with Dawn and Christina and we worked on an exciting new venture, ate sushi and watched movies. Sunday, I got myself to church and well, I have to write about that experience in another post. Later I went to Christina’s house because you know we  hardly see one another! LOL She had made a lovely dinner and then we had some decadent dessert. My weekend can be summed up in one word gratitude. I am so unbelievably grateful for the love of those around me and I hope they know they make my life richer.

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Make Time to Get With Your Girls!

One of the reasons I love church is the fellowship. I always feel rejuvenated after I spend time with friends from church. It isn’t always easy to forge friendship inside or outside of church so here are some ways that you can have fun fellowshipping and building relationships!

Host a Game Night
Games are a blast for people of all ages! What better way to share some laughs and get to know each other than host a game night. I’m actually going to one tonight! Have everyone bring a game if you don’t have enough or pick one game for the night. Everyone can bring  dish or a dessert so the host isn’t responsible for providing all the food and the games.

Create a Book Club
Books are a great way for people to bond and start conversation. Vote on a book to read or have each person pick a book for the month or every two months. Choose a place or alternate between members of the book club. Maybe have tea and cookies or coffee and everyone brings a different type of tea to try.

Supper Club
This is my favorite! Host a dinner one night a month for everyone to break bread and get comfy with one another. The easiest way is to do a potluck, or if the host does the main meal everyone bring a side or a dessert.

Bible Study
Start a bible study. Maybe it is a single mom’s bible study or just a bible study in general. This is a great way to feed one another spiritually and really get into the word with your sisters in Christ.

Walking Groups
A walking group is a great way to get exercise and hang out together in nature. You can stop at the coffee shop and then do a lovely walk through nature. I have had some of my best conversations during a hike.

Craft Night
Crafting is a creative way to bring people together and with the holidays coming up there are a lot of fun DIYs that you can dive in! Crafting usually brings a lot of laughs. Schedule a day and host a crafting night with snacks and lots of fun crafty items. Maybe do a project for a cause, for example like making care packages for soldiers.

Whatever brings you together I say try it! It is so much fun getting to know your church family so get your wheels turning and find a way to fellowship!

Thank You To My Soul Sisters!

I experienced an incredible lunch with three of my friends this weekend. What was so incredible was the bonding, sharing and sacred conversation that took place for 12 hours, yes 12 nonstop hours filled with words that made us laugh, cry and get to know one another on a soul level. There was no shallowness no masks just us four women sitting around a table peeling back some of our deepest layers. I love being a woman and experiencing the magic that happens between us. Our conversation was organic and just flowed, with no judgment just appreciation. I loved that each one of my girlfriends is so complex, brave, vulnerable and willing to share themselves, to let their voices be heard their stories be told and that they inspire me to let the walls I’ve built around myself to tumble down. I hope they know how absolutely much I adore them and every facet that makes them into the beautiful women who make my life whole lot more colorful. Thank you my sisters for your inspiration, encouragement,  faith, and your acceptance of me just the way I am.

Did you ever have an evening like that with your girlfriends? If you haven't please call them up, set up a date and do it! 

Did you ever have an evening like that with your girlfriends? If you haven’t please call them up, set up a date and do it!

Brunch and Inspiration With a Friend! The Best Way to Start the Weekend!

I love starting Friday’s out by having brunch with a friend! Especially friends who inspire you  and push you to reach for your potential!

I love fixing the table for a little chat

I love fixing the table for a little chat

I baked the banana/chocolate chip muffins right before she came over and they were warm and delicious!

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The best part was motivating each other to manifest our ideas and to encourage one another’s creativity! Feeling grateful!

A light brunch hit the spot along with good conversation!

A light brunch hit the spot along with good conversation!

Lacking Motivation? Get An Accountability Partner! I Did!

All of us have potential, but potential is left unfulfilled if we don’t fuel it with action, motivation, intention and desire.  It’s easy to talk about our ideas, goals and dreams and we may have all the spiritual gifts we need to manifest them, but if we don’t hold ourselves accountable in reaching our potential we’re basically throwing away our gifts. We have the tendency to give ourselves a lot of slack and that is why having an accountability partner, someone who will hold your feet to the fire isn’t a bad idea. Today, I was thrilled when a friend of mine brought up the idea of us holding one another accountable in accomplishing our goals. Not only did she bring up the idea she set a specific date and time for us to meet every week! So every Friday morning we’re going to meet and give each other an update on our goals. I’m excited to see how this will go and how it will motivate me and her. I thought I’d share this because one I think it’s a good idea and two it builds community with women that can encourage and inspire one another! I can’t wait to get together every Friday, have a cup of coffee and start being held accountable!

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Creating a Little Summer Dinner Fun!

Do you know how much I love dining outdoors? No you don’t because I can’t express how much l love it!!! Today was a beautiful day and I decided to have an impromptu dinner outside with a friend. The one thing I truly enjoy is trying to create memories. This weekend I was thinking a lot about how I want to live and how I want my life to look. I want life to be beautiful and to include others in that beauty. So today this was my small attempt to do just that :) I suggest getting together with your friends this summer and having dinner outside as much as you can!

It started with a quick trip to Trader Joe’s to pick up some pretty sunflowers 

Then there was the table 

Some delicious grapes, cheese and crackers along with a simple salad 
My DIY tray, a few springs from my yard and a some glasses I’ve been dying to use

And a little gift for my guest (the inside says I adore her friendship :)

The main dish isn’t pictured but I made spinach chick pea korma with rice. We had a great time eating, laughing and listening to music on the porch in the summer air!

Ode to My Beautiful Friend, Christina Who Is Making it Happen!!

I’m so proud of my friend Christina, who is not only a wonderful person but a beautiful girlfriend who has shown me love and kindness ever since I met her. We have shared so much together… laughs, tears, kids, single mom stuff, heartaches, sushi :) and much more. She is the one person I can rely on and call whenever I need a shoulder to cry on or a favor. She understands me and accepts me with all my flaws and faults. She is also a role model and mentor to me. This past year Christina was trying to buy a house, a fresh new step for her and her daughter. It wasn’t easy, but she did it! She persevered and never gave up. She is quite the business woman I must say, not only does she have another house she rents out she bought a new house that needed some renovations. I meant renovations like electrical wiring, tearing down walls, putting in a kitchen kind of work. I can’t even comprehend everything that she needs to do because it makes my head swirl! Instead of being intimidated she jumped right in, spending hours at home depot and doing her homework on finding the right contractors to get the job done. Did I mention she is a single mom? Yes , and a rocking one!

Regardless of the obstacles she’s come against she keeps moving forward! She has shown with hard work, dedication and passion you can achieve whatever it is you want! So today I want to say thank you to my lovely and tenacious friend Christina for showing me that you can make it happen! Christina, I’ve always said you don’t know how strong you are and I meant that, but I hope when you look in the mirror you are proud of the woman, friend, and mother you are. You are an inspiration to me and any woman who has a dream. I love you to the moon my dear friend and my life is 548454845 times better with you in it! I can’t wait to throw that housewarming party for you!!!



She is orchestrating this whole renovation process! So proud of her!