Show Acts of Kindness Not Judgement

Judgement hurts. Judgement spill out so easily, doesn’t it? We look at people and their actions and in a few moments we make a snap judgement about who they are, and what their actions say about them. Maybe it’s easy because it has become a norm in our society. There’s a whole lot of judgement going on these days and you can’t tell me it doesn’t hurt, and if you’ve been on the receiving end then you know that is the truth.

Single moms are often unfairly under the eye of judgement. How often has the mom whose kid is having a full blown tantrum received darting stares of annoyance? Or the person who comes late to church service every Sunday are given the disappointing stare? The woman who passes on adding to the collection plate is whispered about behind their back? We are so quick to give a disapproving glance, or cast a stereotype without looking beyond the surface. Are we so trained to take things at face value that we don’t really see the complexities of what is happening behind the face we are judging.

If we only stopped to ask, maybe we would learn that the child’s tantrum is because they are sick, and have been poked and prodded for months on end, and their mom is too exhausted from her own anxiety to do much about it.
Maybe the woman who is always late is fighting depression and just getting out of bed and getting dressed is a battle, so showing up to church is a win for them. The person who passed on the collection plate, may be struggling just to put food on their family’s table and is hoping not to get evicted, so there is no money to give.

The point is there is usually something deeper that lies beyond what we see. If you’ve ever been unfairly judged you know it cuts you to the core, it’s humilating and it makes you feel less than. Jesus wants us to be the light, to shine in that place where others see darkness. We are beautifully flawed and complex beings, so, before we judge let’s stop and look deeper. Instead of passing judgement let’s pass on acts of kindness and love so that judgement has no place to reside.

Get Some Rest! Stop Counting On Man & Start Trusting In God

Who do you rely on? Most of us rely on someone, right? Often times we rely the most on ourselves. or we trust in those around us. When we fail or others don’t meet our expectations, we get nervous. Anxiety starts to set in and we forget about who is in control…God.

Placing our faith in everyone and everything else causes us to be tired…spiritually tired. The type of tired that causes unrest in our spirit. The kind of unrest that makes us feel sad, helpless and desperate. We have limitations. God is limitless . We see burdens, God sees the blessing. We feel alone and God sees our troubles as a way draw us closer to him. How often do we call on everyone else but God? We seek advice from our friends, family, and therapists, but how often do we stop and call on the Lord?

I can’t tell you how many times I have felt stuck, with no way out. I cried until I couldn’t see, I sat for hours trying to figure out a solution, I tried to think logically, I had sleepless night and anxiety ridden days. Guess what? None of it solved the problem or got me through the trial. It was only when I surrendered it to God did I find rest. My issue wasn’t magically resolved overnight (sometimes it was!) but I found rest for my spirit. I could walk through the day knowing that God would take care of me.

As a single parent, I know there are struggles that are unique to you and your children. I also know that you have the best partner, one that won’t let you down, that will support you, and give you the wisdom and strength you need to move forward. It’s easy to become tainted to look outward, to feel like you are a lone ranger on your own, but I beg you to look inward to that place where God resides in you and hold onto him, because he is always holding onto you.

Our problems and circumstances seem impossible or insurmountable because we view them with human eyes! In our humanness we can’t see a solution, or a way through, but God already has the plan in place! The best thing is unlike human plans, there are no flaws in God’s plans! It may not be the one you had in mind, but you can trust that he has your best interest in mind.


Are you tired? Find rest through trusting in God and not man. Trust in the power of the one who knows you better than anyone, who knit you into your beautiful complex self and whose love For you is eternal and endless! When you put your faith in him then you will find true rest.

Experiencing Writers Block in Your Life? Hand the Pen Over To God!

Are you experiencing writer’s block in your life? Are you desperately trying to write this incredible story for you own life, that is filled with purpose and passion, a life you know in your heart your were destined to live and hitting a wall? You try so hard to fill the blank pages and you keep coming up short, or you write this story that doesn’t feel right, so what do you do?

It’s time to hand the pen over to the real author of your life…God. We fight so hard to be in control of everything, don’t we? After all we know ourselves best, so we should be able to write a story for our life that matches our vision. This is our first misstep. We do not know ourselves best. The Lord, our creator, the one who knitted us in our mother’s womb and knew our lives before we ever came into being, knows us more intimately than we can imagine. Why wouldn’t we trust God to write our story?

I’ve been in a season of uncertainty and frustration. Life is going by and I have all these dreams on my heart that I’m trying to bring to fruition and I’m stuck. The paper is laid out, I’m picking up the pen and nothing is happening. The enemy is whispering every day…give up, just settle, you’re not special, you will never be more than what you are right now. It is so easy to listen to that lie, to stop believing and trusting that God has an amazing story for my life. When we surrender and submit to God instead of hearing the enemy’s whispers we hear God loud and clear. He will guide our steps, he will remove the writer’s block and start writing your story with you.

If you feel as though you have nothing to give, that you don’t want to write this life story anymore, please do not give up! That is a lie from Satan. As long as you have breath in your body, and faith in God your story is still being written. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Let the powerfulness of this scripture marinate in your heart, spirit, and mind. You are taken care of…God has the plan and it is a good one. A plan that is full of hope and prosperity, that will have you glorify him and be a testimony to all that he is capable of doing in your life and those who believe in him. Your future is secure.

Hand the pen over and allow God to write a bestseller of your life!

Thirsty? Drink in The Word of God!

Psalm 42:1 “As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God.”

The first tip in my upcoming eBook to Avoid Single Mom Burnout is to “Schedule a Daily Date with God! The world is a tough contender! It will knock you out of the ring with a punch you never saw coming. I’m sure you’ve had a few TKO’s in your life, right? You’re going about your business and bam, you get sucker punched! It makes me think about the movie Rocky. Poor Rock, bloodied, and bent over in the corner with Mickey wiping his face and squirting water into his mouth. That’s us after a tough bout with the world! We are left parched, bruised and spiritually dehydrated.

It’s tempting to drink the water the world offers. The enemy wants to keep you thirsty! It is all in Satan’s plan. You make a choice to follow the enemy’s plan instead of God’s plan when you start drinking anything that looks good! Don’t be fooled, by its empty promises it will never fulfill you like God’s living water. The satisfaction you receive from the world’s water is temporary. It may taste good, for awhile, but I promise you it will leave you thirstier than before. Only God is the permanent solution to spiritual dehydration.

Suffering From Spiritual Dehydration?

Do you feel hopeless? Do you feel spiritually lost? Is your faith floundering? Are you questioning your purpose? Do you feel a loss of joy? Does God seem far away from you? If you answered yes, you have the classic symptoms of spiritual dehydration.

Health experts suggest drinking a glass of water in the morning to rehydrate. But, if you’re suffering from spiritual dehydration, it will take more than water to replenish your spirit! You need a big gulp of God’s word to kick start your day! We need to nourish ourselves with the word of God on a daily basis. We need to be insatiable when it comes to drinking in the scriptures.

God’s word is our shelter, armor, blueprint for life and a place of refuge from the storms. Scriptures guides and reminds us that God is present. He is alive and loves us in all our imperfections. The word is living and breathing and gives us life, so drink it in! Be like the deer panting near the water, pant for the water that feeds your soul. Be intentional about scheduling a date with God and drinking him in, so that your light continues to shine and your faith is continually renewed.

The Lord Restores

During this Holy Week, I can’t help but to reflect on the ultimate sacrifice and love of God… the crucifixion of Christ. Christ who was sinless, died for our sins, to give us undeserved forgiveness and to save our souls. There is not better friend than the one we have in Jesus. I think about this absolute truth when I think of suffering. When we are in a season of suffering it’s so easy to be suffocated under the weight of hopelessness. The feeling that there is no ending is sight. But, this scripture in Peter reminds us that God restores.
We were lost and God gave us the opportunity to be restored through death of Christ. Through every season of suffering you can count on God bringing forth a season of restoration. When restoration from the Lord occurs it is in some ways greater than our suffering. Not to belittle loss or suffering, but it brings about a strength in our faith that I believe God specifically uses for his glory. When you’ve endured a particularly difficult season, and God restores you, and makes you steadfast and firm in a new season, you have a testimony to share. Through your suffering and restoration you can bring hope to another one of God’s children. Never think that your suffering isn’t connected to a bigger purpose. As children of God we are in community and connection with the body of Christ. Your experience in suffering and restoration are significant and purposeful. Rest assure there is nothing God can not restore and use for his plan. If you have any doubt, think about Jesus dying on the cross for you, he was steadfast then and he is steadfast now, by your side always.

God Has More In Store for You…Are You Listening?


When you are designed by the ultimate creator there is no limit to what you can do! If you feel like you’re settling for less, you probably are! I strongly believe that when we feel as though we are not living up to our potential, that is God whispering to us…I have more for you. If we choose to ignore Him we remain merely existing and not living authentically or embracing our purpose . One sign of not living authentically is feeling uncomfortable in our skin, because we are living a design that doesn’t fit who we are in Christ. Ask yourself these few questions?
  • Am I living a narrative that others have created for me?
  • Am I just going with the flow and letting life happen to me?
  • Am I an active participant in manifesting my vision for my life?
  • Do I hide my spiritual gifts because I don’t believe I’m talented or good enough to succeed?
  • Do I look at others who are living my dream and feel envious that I’m not pursuing what’s in my heart?
  • Am I ignoring the doors that God keeps opening because I’m too afraid to walk through them?
If you answered yes to the questions above, I urge you to stop, get quiet and start listening to the Lord’s call for your life. We aren’t here to worry about success or failure, God put us here by design! You have a purpose to pursue that is God given and perfect for your life. When we start being God reliant and put our faith in the creator we unleash the power within us to do God’s work. In my upcoming eBook “15 Tips to Avoid Single Mom Burnout,” I talk about creating your own narrative with God as the author. Why is this a chapter in a book about burnout? Nothing dims our light, makes us more exhausted, and more discouraged than living a mundane life that doesn’t reflect who we were created to be in Christ. God has carefully planned out your life to be a bestseller, a meaningful legacy that brings him glory, but you have to believe in Him.
How do we do this? We listen, we pray, we act, we stop procrastinating, we live by faith, we stop the stinking thinking and transform our minds to be filled with the spirit and the word of God. There is so much more in store for you, but do you believe it? Do you crave for a life beyond your wildest expectations? Then you are in a win-win situation, because God desires an incredible life for you as well! Believe, follow and act on God’s plan for your life and you will be rewarded beyond measure!

When You Are Consumed… Know That God’s Compassion is Present

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January has been a rough month, taxing emotionally, financially, mentally and spiritually. December 31st filled me with promise for an amazing start to 2019 and if I’m being honest, it’s been anything but amazing. Financially, I had some setbacks, that really put me in a bad position and you know how frustrating that can be, right? Then, I found out an old friend of mine had passed away, in the most unexpected and awful way. It rocked me to my core and to be honest I think I’m still in shock. We were such good friends growing up and although we grew apart, I never stopped wondering about her and trying to keep up with her life, because well, that’s what you do when you love someone, it doesn’t fade away. It’s a complicated relationship, but I’ll just say, my heart was and still is broken. The sadness didn’t stop when another friend lost a dear loved one unexpectedly as well. On top of the fact that work was ridiculously stressful and I had to travel, I’ve been feeling really depleted.

I can feel the walls closing in and as they are closing my mind is going to that stinking thinking place filled with insecurity and doubt. Do you ever go down that road? It’s isn’t a fun trip. There are days where I feel absolutely useless. I take two steps forward and twenty steps back, and I want to scream, “God, what is going on?” I cry, uncle! I mean I’m trying here! I’m sure that’s the problem, I’m trying and not surrendering. How hard it is to just let go and let God? Although I know His way is the best way, and that he already knows the obstacles I will face and has it worked out, it’s still not always easy for me to surrender. That’s that pesky human ego side that fights the spirit tooth and nail.

I’ve been digesting the verse in Lamentations because it is a much-needed reminder of the Lord’s never-ending compassion and mercies that are new every morning. January has been a beast, but I can look back and see God’s compassion coming through. Whether it is Him calming my heart and mind, or a friend bailing me out of a tough unexpected financial situation, or help with my child after school, or a meal on the house from a kind person when I was traveling for work, God was present and his hand was in every situation. I didn’t have to do a thing but allow Him to work. He will never allow us to be consumed because His love is so great, so awesome and consuming! God’s love covers us and carries us. I pray that if you are feeling brokenhearted and weak that you read Lamentations and think about God’s mercies in your life…they are present, I promise you. Allow yourself to be consumed by his compassion and not your burdens.

 

Dig Deep Into the Character of God

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A little while back I dived into Psalms and started to look at the character of God. Do you ever ask yourself who is God? I wanted to share this deep dive with you. I was overwhelmed by what scriptures tell us about God, His character and who He is to us. I hope you are as blessed as I was when I saw the depth of God’s love and provision for us!