Explosive behaviour in children is not a rare occurrence. Usually, such behaviour is caused by the child’s inability to communicate properly and often this anger is directed at the caregiver. Whether you are out walking with your child in the stroller or in your own home, preparing yourself with a basic plan is key to knowing how to handle the situation once your child is behaving in this way.
The following are five essential points to help you deal with your child’s explosive behaviour.
1) Remain calm: the more you shout, the less chance you have of calming your child down. As hard as it may be, instead of getting angry, you should speak to your child in monotone. This way, you will be showing him that screaming and being defiant is not the answer. Make sure the environment where your child is lashing out is safe — remove any young children from the area and objects that can be of harm, so that if the child has to vent then he will be safe doing so.
2) Never give in: you cannot agree to what your child wants just to make the explosive behavior stop because if you do so, the child will keep up this form of lashing out. Moreover, don’t give in to name calling, if the child is calling you names don’t respond, instead leave him alone or send him to his room. Only later, when you are both calm, should you talk, as real communication requires a calm environment. See what your child needs and help him develop better communication skills so that when there is another problem the child won’t need to turn to such behavior.
3) Discipline and rewards: when dealing with the aftermath of an explosive episode, you need to give your child time-outs or other forms of consequences for his behavior but not for his anger. In this way, you are showing your child that being angry is normal but behavior caused by anger like throwing things or verbal abuse is not acceptable.
4) Praise: despite how difficult it can be sometimes, you must praise the child when he calms down or when he tries to communicate with you verbally with what is bothering him. Praising him in this way will show that only proper communication leads to problem solving while explosive behaviour leads to no good. If your child does not have the proper verbal skills, then encourage him to draw out his problem or even draw out an apology to whoever he may have hurt.
5) Triggers: Sometimes explosive behaviour becomes predictable when the child starts to lash out during a certain time of day, for example, when it is time to stop playing or bath time. When such behaviour becomes a pattern, then you can take control of the situation to break the cycle by preparing your child in advance, such as “bath time is in ten minutes.” In this way, you will be easing your child in the situation and giving him a form of mental preparation thus avoiding the explosive behaviour.
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