Avoid Single Mom Burnout Tip #3

Tip #3 Don’t Be a Yes Girl
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I find myself being a yes girl. “Yes, I’ll volunteer for art, sure, I’ll volunteer for this church committee,  of course I can commit to helping out with a class party, I can do it!” I have found myself saying yes only to sometimes regret it or commit to do so much that I’m burnt out and mentally exhausted which only makes me crabby and unproductive. I think some it comes from wanting to overcompensate especially when it comes to volunteering for Anya’s school or activities. I have no one to blame, but the yes girl in me. Although I sincerely enjoy volunteering and especially where Anya is involved I had to admit to myself that it was too much. I am busy and not just with work, but with life in general. If I overcommit then nothing is going to get done and if it is I’ll be left frazzled. Knowing your limits and knowing when to say no is not a bad thing it is a way for you to be honest with yourself and others and lovingly letting them know that you can’t do something.If you say yes to everything you are setting yourself up for frustration. For example, I volunteered last year to do the school newsletter. It was great and I enjoyed getting it out every week, but I was also working, serving on the board of the school, and volunteering with art. When the end of the year came and someone else was interested in helping I knew it was time to hand it over and that was me knowing my limits and when to let go. Learn to say yes to those things that are a priority in your life and that are things you actually want to do and won’t exhaust you. Take a look at the things you are currently doing and what priority they take in your life. Are you happy doing it? If not then maybe it is time to say no.

We have a lot going on and spreading yourself to thin by saying yes to everything isn’t going to make for a happy mom. Saying no is fine! I noticed that some moms feel like they have a duty to say yes to every carpool, every volunteer opportunity and every request that comes there way. Maybe it’s is a way to show that you are just as involved as any parent. Don’t worry about appearances and scratch that thought out of your head. Say yes when you want to say yes and say no when you want to say no, you’ll be happier for doing so and won’t feel resentment when you are volunteering or saying yes. You don’t have to juggle a hundred balls in the air, give yourself peace by saying no sometimes.

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